2024: Your Year of Healing from Childhood Abuse

Experience healing in 2024 by dealing with the lasting impact of childhood abuse. Whether you've faced emotional, physical, or sexual abuse as a child, the repercussions can extend into your adult life, manifesting as enduring suffering and relationship challenges.

Many of our clients experience the following symptoms. Do they sound familiar to you?

• A perpetual sense of dread

• An unshakable feeling that nowhere is truly safe

• Persistent physical symptoms like pain or digestive issues

• A deep-seated mistrust of others

• Difficulties in relationships with authority figures

• Struggles with anger management

• Overeating

• Substance misuse

• Overspending

• Isolation and loneliness may also be prevalent as a protective measure against potential harm, accompanied by feelings of worthlessness.

Now, envision a life free from these emotional burdens and experiences. Imagine breaking free from anxiety and dread, taking confident steps towards your aspirations, whether it's pursuing a fulfilling career or creating new friendships and partnerships.

Picture a life where you're in control of your emotions, responding to them in a measured way, rather than being ruled by them.

Visualize releasing the weight of unprocessed grief stemming from unmet childhood needs—be it protection, love, guidance, or encouragement.

Envision a future where you feel fulfilled, content, at peace with yourself, and secure in your relationships.

Taking the First Step to Self-Healing: How can I help myself?

The first step in dealing with childhood abuse trauma is often acknowledging and recognizing the impact it has had on your life. This recognition can be challenging, but it is a crucial starting point. Seeking support from a mental health professional, such as a counsellor, is another essential step. Additionally, reaching out to friends, family, or support groups can contribute to building a strong support network. Healing from childhood abuse trauma is a gradual process and taking that initial step towards seeking help is a significant milestone.

How do counsellors help?

Counsellors play a crucial role in supporting survivors of childhood abuse on their journey towards healing. With a deep understanding of the profound and lasting effects of abuse, professional counsellors offer a safe space where people can explore and process their experiences.

By listening and providing empathetic guidance, counsellors can help you navigate complex emotions, such as fear, mistrust, and anger, which leads to a sense of empowerment and self-discovery. Tailoring their approach to your unique needs, counsellors employ evidence-based techniques to address trauma, promote resilience, and build coping mechanisms.

How long will it take?

The healing process from childhood abuse is a deeply personal and individual journey that varies for each person. There is no fixed timeline for “success”, as the duration of healing depends on numerous factors, including the type of abuse, the support system available, and the survivor's resilience. For some, progress may be swift, marked by significant strides in understanding and coping. However, for others, the path to healing may be gradual and involve setbacks. It's crucial to recognize that healing is not a linear process; it often involves peaks and troughs. Patience is paramount, as you work through the layers of trauma, build resilience, and redefine your sense of self. Counselling and therapeutic support play instrumental roles in this journey, providing a consistent and understanding space.

Make 2024 your year to embark on this transformative journey.

Tapestry Counselling Centre has provided counselling for people recovering from childhood abuse for over 10 years. We’re based in East Vancouver and here to support you every step of the way.

To take the first step towards healing, we offer a complimentary 30-minute consultation with one of our counsellors. Book your appointment now: https://tapestrycounselling.janeapp.com/ Or leave us a message and our Intake Coordinator, Jenn, will help you find a suitable counsellor: info@tapestrycentre.ca or 604-876-7600.  Or visit our website to learn all about us.

Sick of Holiday Suffering?

The holidays are not always a beautiful and magical time of year.  For many it is a season of exhaustion and to-do lists.

For some, it is much worse. It is a season full of dread and triggers of past traumatic events.  

Many people who have experienced past childhood abuse at the hands of family members or ‘family friends’ will find the holidays a very painful time of year, opening up old wounds.

If this describes you, please know that you are not alone. You do not have to carry these burdens by yourself, and you do not have to ‘push through’ this season the way you always have.

Make this season different. Here’s how you can use your voice to say no, and set boundaries.

Find Support

• Consider joining a support group.  There are some amazing online healing communities for people who have experienced abuse in childhood.  They’re either free or by donation, and you can join or leave at any time.  Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse is one (www.ascasupport.org).  Email: asca.vancouver@gmail.com for info about the group and to receive the zoom link to try a meeting out.

Empower Yourself

Picture this: reclaiming your voice and setting boundaries like never before!

• Learn to Say 'No' - Recognize the power of your voice by saying 'no' to activities or situations that trigger distress. Identify what you can stop doing or reject to protect your well-being.

• Skip Uncomfortable Functions - If the thought of attending certain events brings feelings of obligation or dread, consider saying 'no.' Reflect on the consequences and ask yourself what's worse: declining an invitation or enduring discomfort?

• Establish New Traditions - Forge your path by creating new traditions, such as spending time with chosen friends or family. Alternatively, treat yourself to a change of scenery by going out of town.

• Set Time Limits - If you decide to attend an event that requires boundaries, set a predetermined time to leave. Politely excuse yourself when the time comes, saying, "It's time for me to head out. Thanks for hosting. Happy holidays," without the need for extensive explanations.

At Tapestry Counselling Centre we work with people every day who have survived abuse and trauma.  We are here to help.  Please consider reaching out to us to book a free 30-minute consultation to talk with a trauma-informed counsellor and start moving through a healing journey today. Website: www.tapestrycentre.ca ; Phone: 604-876-7600 ; Email: info@tapestrycentre.ca ; Online booking: https://tapestrycounselling.janeapp.com/